I have started my wonderland :) it's got a long way and lots of money to go but it will look great for the kids.... And me lol I think I have about 800 LEDs in total and more being added today along with a reindeer.. :) x
I have lots of work to do today, everything is just about ready to start putting the lights and tree up... And it's cost a fortune, but the children will live it... Well they better or they will sit there until they do lol photos will be going up so keep looking...
I don't like being up this early in the morning at all, one day I would just like a sleep in.... So Santa other than chopping my nuts away and getting me a boob job.. Oh and not to forget the shoes I told you about in the long letter I sent you... Can you please please tell the kids to sleep a little longer in the mornings... :)
I was at a Christmas lights switch on tonight and my little boy wanted to wear mini mouse pink flashing ears, now as you can tell I would have no problem with this... I am now a little bothered about him losing this wonderful side, adults, kids can be so nasty.... He loves mini mouse he loves the colour pink, he wears a pink pig hat most days :) upto now I have not had to kick anyone's arse because they have said anything, I hope I never have to do this... I know my family are not happy with me being trans, and I just hope I don't get the old.... Your making him gay/trans by him being around you, as this would 100% cut all and any ties with them. I could not and will not let people with small minds get into my boys head and mess with his wonderful beautiful personality.... So let this be a warning one word just one little comment and the it will be the last one.... That is for anyone wanting today a word about him.... Now I am off to have a nice hot cup of tea and a mint humbug :) x
I am at the Christmas lights switch on in Wolverhampton, and it's loud the kids are loving it.... Me well I am cold and it's £5 for a burger... What the hell lol
I am sure a lot of you have had the feeling if you are doing the right thing, myself I have had them a long long time ago... Tonight I have been sitting here quietly thinking... Am I on the right road right now and the answer was yes... So now I have to start thinking why do I feel so bad in myself, I look in the mirror and still want to rip my face off and know I will always look this way.. I am not stressed just fed up knowing I can not do anything about it, but I also know I just have to get on with it... And try and live the best way I can.
I have tried and tested the new snow globe out and it's big very big :) can't wait to get started now... X
The first item in my winter Christmas wonderland is... A big snowman snow globe... I am also making a little Christmas town on and 6ft table with chiristmas train track and lights... With a nice hint of pink and purple it will be the perfect LGBT Christmas for our home :)
it just about that time of year again, but this year is going to be better than last, I am in a better place in my head... and that can only be good, I am in the prosess of making the back room into a winter wonderland for all the kids... with a little bit of karla chucked in photos will be going up every step of the way so keep popping back to check on karlas wonderland...
I have jumped on the M6 today to come and see my little girl who I have not seen for weeks... I know I am going to hate going later why can't life be a little more simple... At least the snow has not decided to show its white little face and make the day harder..
My little lad for this Christmas is going mad for baby born and a pink kitchen, and mini mouse pink chair also prams... All this if affordable will be got for him, I know my family will not be impressed and I also know in there minds I am corrupting his little mind... But what does it matter pink, blue, green what ever colour... Boy.. Girl... Babies are babies they know nothing of gender sexuality all they see is lovely colours.... I will never understand why we have toys for boy toys for girls.... Does anyone have any thoughts on this??
Well my mum and dad are making the trip to come and see me today, for all the people out there who think life is over, mum and dad will always be mum and dad, it does get better life does go on... So don't sit there wishing you never come out, do something about it, make a call send a letter, just make contact.. Don't leave it do it today, and if you get no response do it again... If you hit a brick wall do what it takes to knock it down... Remember things in life do not come easy at all..... Find your rainbow and ride it home xx
I need a new pair of boots so if anyone wants to give me some for free lol I would be very grateful... other than that it will be off to town as I can no longer cope with wet feet... :)
Transgender and work Your rights in employment and vocational training
Transgender and work Your rights in employment and vocational training This leaflet provides advice to individuals who are undergoing gender reassignment. It may also be a useful source of information for people who are not familiar with transgender issues. Introduction Transsexualism affects an estimated 5,000 people in the UK. Medical treatment to enable transsexual people to alter their bodies to match their gender identity is highly successful. The process is known medically as gender reassignment. The Sex Discrimination Act (SDA) was amended in May 1999 to protect transsexual people against discrimination in employment and vocational training. Real life test refers to the transition period in gender reassignment during which the individual must live and work in the new sex. Your rights under the Sex Discrimination Act (SDA) You have the right not to be discriminated against at work because of the fact that you intend to undergo, are undergoing or have undergone gender reassignment. This means you are protected from harassment, redundancy and dismissal and less favourable treatment in recruitment, promotion, pay, access to work-related benefits and vocational training. The law applies to you whether you are an agency worker, temp, professional partner, apprentice, trainee, subcontractor or other kind of contracted worker. To make a claim under the SDA, you need to show that your gender reassignment is the main reason for your treatment.
Exceptions Discrimination on grounds of gender reassignment may occasionally be permitted where, for example: A particular gender is a requirement for a job, e.g. women’s refuge worker. The job involves conducting intimate searches. The job involves working in someone’s home. Temporary exceptions may apply during the transition process where: Individuals have to share accommodation. Personal care services are provided to vulnerable individuals. Even so, your employer has a responsibility to assess each situation carefully and act reasonably in the circumstances, e.g. considering alternatives such as reassigning duties.
During your transition and the Real Life Test You should meet with your employer to agree how your transition will take place. Some of the issues you may need to discuss are: The timescale for any medical or cosmetic treatment. When and how to inform colleagues and clients. When to change your name, personal details and social identity. The need for flexibility in the dress code, where applicable. Amending personnel records. Using single-sex facilities. Ensuring hostile or negative reactions among the workforce are addressed effectively. Whether you wish to stay in your current post or request redeployment.
Confidentiality Legally, you do not have to disclose your transgender status or previous identity to your employer. Where you do so, e.g. for references, you are entitled to strict confidentiality. Your legal status You have the right to change your personal details and to live as a member of the opposite sex to that recorded at birth. You can change your name and official documents, e.g. driving licence, passport or medical card, to reflect your new gender identity.
Gender Recognition Act The Gender Recognition Act 2004, which came into force on 4 April 2005, further provides individuals with the right to change their legal gender by means of a Gender Recognition Certificate. This certificate automatically leads to a new birth certificate in the acquired gender with all its attendant rights and responsibilities. This includes the right to marry. A trans person who is already married is obliged under the Act to divorce to gain a Gender Recognition Certificate. He or she will then be able to register a Civil Partnership to regain the legal status of their relationship.
The Equality and Human Rights Commission gives information and advice about age, disability, gender, gender reassignment, race, religion or belief, and sexual orientation. You can get more information on transgender issues from links below
Contact us: You can find out more or get in touch with us via our website at: www.karladreams.com or by Email: firstname.lastname@example.org
I certainly do believe that the world would be better if people felt free and safe enough to be who they really are Why are you trying so hard to fit in when you were born to stand out?
Down the road the sun is shining. In every cloud there’s a silver lining. JUST KEEP HOLDING ON!! You are here to be you, not someone else. You were born to be real, not perfect.
There you are minding your business having what you perceive to be a 'normal' relationship and your partner has just dropped a bombshell !
There will be a lot of thoughts running through your head right now !
Not least the 'big ones' -
1) Is your partner gay?
2) What will everyone think? From family members to the outside world!
3) Does he want to change sex?
As things go on you will have many other questions,
and you won't always know the best way to ask them!
Quite often, there never seems to be a right time and you maybe don't want to rock the boat.
'T' partners in general are quite secretive - they usually have always had to be.
Boys learn early on that they are different and that keeping the female side of them hidden is the best policy for a quiet life.
For the women who love them, this can be difficult to grasp. Most women are more emotional creatures -
could any of you hide a dark secret for many years without even telling your closest friend?
If your partner has told you he dresses, this represents a huge leap of faith for him, and even though you may be confused and upset, please remember that the likelihood is that your partner is terrified. This applies in spades if he didn't tell you, but you found out for yourself - however angry and confused you may be, do try to remember that he may well have had what he regarded as very good reasons for keeping it from you.
Your partner will be thinking along similar lines to you -
1) Will she leave me?
2) Will she tell people and humiliate me?
3) Will she think i'm gay?
The key to any relationship is communication - don't be afraid to say how you feel, but be aware that your partner may have never told another living soul and your reactions may well have a long lasting effect.
From my experience, when a 'T' partner is challenged they may clam up. Because of the nature of what is being discussed and the associated fears, the calmer you stay the further you will get!
I would like to stress here that no one has to do anything they don't feel comfortable with. Everyone has the right to say 'this is not for me' if that's the way they really feel. Sometimes this might seem easier said than done - you may have been married for a good few years, have children at home, be worried about supporting yourself or many other reasons.
What I will say is that there are a great many couples for whom one partner's being 'T' is just another aspect of their relationship. No big deal!
In some cases it has brought partners closer together, and in others the shockwaves have split them up completely.
So where you go from here depends on you, and hopefully there may be some bits and pieces around here that will help you with that.
There is no right or wrong answer - to a degree we are all on our own, yet we share many commonalities.
I have bought this book, I was at first a little should I should I not... only because I do not read books at all... not that I cant... its because my head wonders... but I did read it, it has taken some time with the kids and life lol but WOW please go and check it out link down there :) x
Hate crimes are directed against people because of some aspect of who they are, most typically because they are from an ethnic minority or visible religious minority, or because of their sexuality.
Hate crime covers a wide range of behaviour, for example verbal abuse, racist or homophobic graffiti or physical assault. A crime can be classed as a hate crime if the victim or witness see it as being so.
If you are the victim of what you think is a hate crime, it is not your fault. You have the right to live your life free from abuse and violence, whoever you are. You do not have to live with hate crime.
Police are trained to deal with hate crime with sensitivity and tact. They will not treat you differently because you are from an ethnic or religious minority, or because of your sexuality.
Contact the Public Protection UnitTelephone: 0207 601 2940
Fax: 0207 601 2942
Email the Public Protection Unit
In the event of an emergency or a crime being committed always dial 999.
What is homophobic or transphobic bullying?Are you or someone you know...
Homophobia is any abuse because you are or people think you are lesbian, gay or bisexual.
Transphobia is any abuse because you are or people think you are transgender, transvestite or transsexual.
Bullying is any action against any person or group, who may be seen as different.
What can I do about it?Talking through your problems will make a difference and help you to think through how to sort them out.
Tell someone what's happening... teacher, friends, parents or lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender (LGBT) friendly organisations, including the police.
What personal safety measures can I take?
If it does happen, it is important you tell someone.
What can I report?Any incident where you or anyone else has been targeted because they or you are believed to be of a different:
Any incident you believe was motivated by:
What can the City of London Police do about it?The City of London Police will not tolerate any form of hate crime. We are committed to ensuring your safety. The Force has a dedicated public protection unit who are specifically trained for that role and are there to help.
Racist, homophobic and transphobic behaviour and domestic violence are treated as hate crimes. If you have been affected by hate crime, or think you have, then let us help you. We will offer you support and give you practical assistance and advice to help you decide what to do next.
Why report it?The self-reporting system allows you as the victim, witness, parent, carer or any concerned person to report an incident to the police by giving us as little or as much personal information as you wish.
By filling out the reporting form you will:
Enable the police and partnership agencies to build up patterns of behaviour, highlight areas of concern and provide us with a 'True Vision' of what is happening.
Without your details:
The report will be used for monitoring purposes to get a true vision of what is happening.
With your details:
The incident can be investigated fully and you can get the service you deserve and the support you need.
If I give my details, will the police contact me?Only if you want us to. You choose the preferred method, e.g. by mobile phone or at another address, we will be happy to make alternative arrangements, only if you want us to.
What happens if I agree for my details to be passed to a multi agency partnership?With your permission the information you provide may be used when working with other agencies, such as the council or housing to prevent this type of incident happening again.
Agencies may be able to offer you support and assistance.
For more information and useful numbers:
If you have been a victim of a racist and religiously-motivated hate crime, contact:
Wow we got over 1000 hits last night.. I did not expect that at all, hope it keeps coming.... Right now that's put of the way I am off to Gregg's to get a pasty for an early lunch and a cake :) x
It's so late I do think I should not have put the Xbox on tonight lol well must sleep I have a date with a unicorn and a rainbow and a field full of flowers xxx
Pizza Hut is the only place to go if your in need of a quick fix.... So tonight's meal will be a vegetarian hot pizza with wedges... Just wish I had a code or two lol xxx
why are people Transgender?
what causes it?There are a number of theories about why transgender people exist although there is not yet scientific consensus. When you look across cultures, you will find that people have had a wide range of beliefs about gender. Some cultures look at people and see six genders, while others see two.
Some cultures have created specific ways for people to live in roles that are different from that assigned to them at birth. In addition, different cultures also vary in their definitions of masculine and feminine. In some places, men are expected to be gentle and nurturing, while in others, they are expected to be strong and stoic.
Whether we view someone as transgender depends on the cultural lenses we are looking through as well as how people identify themselves. Biologists tell us that sex is a complicated matter, much more complex than what we may have been taught in school.
A person has XX chromosomes is generally considered female, while a person with XY chromosomes is generally considered male. However, there are also people who have XXY, XYY, and other variations of chromosomes; these genetic differences may or may not be visibly apparent or known to the person.
Some people are born with XY chromosomes, but are unable to respond to testosterone and therefore develop bodies with a vagina and breasts, rather than a penis and testes. A variation in gender may just be part of the natural order and there are more varieties than we generally realize. People with biological differences in gender may be considered inter-sex; they may or may not identify as transgender
Will this crap weather ever stop I hate wearing jeans... But it's way to cold to wear anything else.. But on a better note the summer is only down the road so best start getting skimpy stuff in :) x
Being Transgender or Gay is not a choice, being Transphobic or Homophobic is, so don't be a Twonk