I hope you all have a great 2013 and all your dreams come true xxx
Have fun in the wind and rain with crying babies 100 miles away from home NOT! I bloody hate the M6 motorway not easy driving with screaming babies next to you, when one stops the other starts they are like a bloody tag team!! Well not far from home now just stopped at the shops for tea
Christmas is great When you spend it with the one you love.... Scrap the last post if you read it before I removed it.... Now what skirt should I wear tomorrow, short and sexy might be the way to go me thinks, well I have to show off my new stockings.... X
It's been a long day been up since early with babies well I was up waiting for them like a soft sod, not sure it was a good idea as I am now ready to drop,it's times like this I wish I could drink as I need an excuse to drop to the floor in a heap and sleep the night.. But I an sitting here with a nice cold strawberry milk shake, I am well hard I think better be carful as this stuff can be leathal. I am off tomorrow to get my daughter and see mum and dad and the rest of the clan, I still need to wrap all the gifts for them too and can't find the tape lol.... Now the dilemma I have is do I dress down or not with my daughter knowing everything about me and being happy with it should I now just not worry what others think and go with it.. Well tomorrow will be interesting indeed I think all depends what mood I am in, right now I am in a don't give a shit mood so looks like leggings and a long top and my knee boots.. I have to wear my new ear rings some time and tomorrow will be perfect me thinks x
Merry Christmas hope you all have a wonderful time... And remember its not about what you get it's about being around the ones that matter the most in your life, and also give a thought to all those who are less fortunate than you
Big hugs Karla xxx
Right well it's Christmas Eve and I have nothing to do at all wow for the first time ever we can relax and have some fun withy the kids :).... So I do think Christmas movies are in order for today and lots of hot chocolate, well not for the kids as one of them is in pain with her teeth and having 3 out just after Christmas, she was warned its one of them times it does not feel good saying I told you so!.
I can't wait to see my little boys face tomorrow it's his first Christmas where he knows what's going on.... And the seeing my other 4 kids and beautiful partner who I love so bloody much opening the one special gift I have for her... Then Boxing Day it's off to see my family I can't wait to see them too, but the best part of Boxing Day is I see my daughter and have an other Christmas ... Xx
The bloody rain has not stopped all day and I am driving up north tomorrow, not looking forward to the drive at all in any way,I will be I the road for about 5 hours and that's without traffic, and bloody floods... I will have my lovely new ipad with me so if I get stuck I will update how pissed I am with photos lol.. well nigh night sleep tight xxxx
VATICAN CITY — The pope pressed his opposition to gay marriage Friday, denouncing what he described as people eschewing their God-given gender identities to suit their sexual choices – and destroying the very "essence of the human creature" in the process.
Benedict XVI made the comments in his annual Christmas address to the Vatican bureaucracy, one of his most important speeches of the year. He dedicated it this year to promoting traditional family values in the face of gains by same-sex marriage proponents in the U.S. and Europe and efforts to legalize gay marriage in places like France and Britain.
In his remarks, Benedict quoted the chief rabbi of France, Gilles Bernheim, in saying the campaign for granting gays the right to marry and adopt children was an "attack" on the traditional family made up of a father, mother and children.
"People dispute the idea that they have a nature, given to them by their bodily identity, that serves as a defining element of the human being," he said. "They deny their nature and decide that it is not something previously given to them, but that they make it for themselves."
"The manipulation of nature, which we deplore today where our environment is concerned, now becomes man's fundamental choice where he himself is concerned," he said.
It was the second time in a week that Benedict has taken on the question of gay marriage, which is currently dividing France, and which scored big electoral wins in the United States last month. In his recently released annual peace message, Benedict said gay marriage, like abortion and euthanasia, was a threat to world peace. The Vatican went on a similar anti-gay marriage media blitz last month after three U.S. states approved gay marriage by popular vote.
After the peace message was released last week, gay activists staged a small protest in St. Peter's Square. On Friday, gay activists sharply criticized the pope's take on gender theory and insisted that where gay marriage has been legalized, families are no worse off.
Italy's main gay rights group Arcigay called the pope's comments "absurd, dangerous and totally out of synch with reality." And a coalition of four U.S. Catholic organizations representing gay, lesbian and transgender people said the pope had an "outmoded" view of what it means to be man and woman.
"Increasingly Catholics in the United States and around the world see what we see. Catholics, following their own well-formed consciences, are voting to support equal rights for LGBT people because in their churches and communities they see a far healthier, godly and realistic vision of the human family than the one offered by the pope," according to a statement from the groups Call To Action, DignityUSA, Fortunate Families, and New Ways Ministry.
Church teaching holds that homosexual acts are "intrinsically disordered," though it stresses that gays should be treated with compassion and dignity. As pope and as head of the Vatican's orthodoxy watchdog before that, Benedict has been a strong enforcer of that teaching: One of the first major documents released during his pontificate said men with "deep-seated" homosexual tendencies shouldn't be ordained priests.
For the Vatican, though, the gay marriage issue goes beyond questions of homosexuality, threatening what the church considers to be the bedrock of society: a family based on a man, woman and their children.
In his speech, the pope cited Bernheim as lamenting how a new philosophy of sexuality has taken hold, whereby sex and gender are "no longer a given element of nature that man has to accept and personally make sense of: it is a social role that we choose for ourselves, while in the past it was chosen for us by society."
He said God had created man and woman as a specific "duality" – "an essential aspect of what being human is all about."
Now, though, "Man and woman as created realities, as the nature of the human being, no longer exist. Man calls his own nature into question. From now on he is merely spirit and will."
The Vatican's opposition to gay marriage has been falling largely on deaf ears. In addition to the U.S. election gains, the Constitutional Court in largely Roman Catholic Spain upheld the law legalizing gay marriage last month. Earlier this month, the British government announced it will introduce a bill next year legalizing gay marriage, though it would ban the Church of England from conducting same-sex ceremonies.
In France, President Francois Hollande has said he would enact his "marriage for everyone" plan within a year of taking office last May. The text will go to parliament next month. But the country has been divided by vocal opposition from religious leaders, prime among them Bernheim, as well as some politicians and parts of rural France.
The Socialist government's plan also envisions legalizing same-sex adoptions. Benedict quoted Bernheim as denouncing the plan, saying that it would mean a child would essentially be considered an object people have a right to obtain.
"When freedom to be creative becomes the freedom to create oneself, then necessarily the Maker himself is denied and ultimately man too is stripped of his dignity as a creature of God," Benedict said.
Good morning, again it bloody raining and I have to go out shopping, not looking forward to this at all I know it's going to be packed out with Christmas shoppers... Now the problem is even worse I don't know what to wear... Oh crap!! What will I do... Jeans will get wet and I hate wet cold legs.... X
This is a lovely story x
It was the most sincere display of appreciation that my five-year-old son has ever shown. He looked me straight in the eyes and said a very mature and worldly “thank you.” The words were full of honesty, relief, happiness and a little bit of anguish.
“You’re welcome, baby,” I said looking at him with a smile and masking the pain I was feeling. “You look so pretty.”
My gender creative son was thanking me for buying him a dress to wear to Christmas Eve dinner.
He had eyed the ensemble weeks ago and asked to wear it for Christmas so he could take “fancy pictures by the fireplace and the tree.
I told him no. Not because the outfit was made for girls and he is a boy, but because had I bought it then he would have wanted to wear it immediately and often and when we finally sat down to Christmas Eve dinner it would have been thrashed.
He talked about his “Christmas outfit” nonstop and asked everyday if it was time to go buy it.
Today was the day. We got home and both ran up the stairs to my bedroom with its mirrored closets. I sat on the floor removing price tags while he tore off his “school clothes,” which he wears as a disguise when out in society so that people will think he is all boy. He wears “school clothes” so that he won’t get teased, have to sit by himself at the lunch tables and so he will get invites to birthday parties. More than anything he wants to be thought of as “normal.” But, he’s not.
He closed his eyes as I put on the black bubble skirt covered in sequins, the red long sleeved t-shirt that says “JOY” on it in glitter and the black sequined vest. I spun him to the mirror. He opened his eyes, took himself in and then thanked me.
My first reaction was to smile. He reminded me of when I was a little girl and wanted a show stopping dress for the holidays. My dresses were made of scratchy fabric that made noise when I moved. I wore white socks with lace trim and stiff, shiny Mary Janes. I learned at an early age that beauty is pain.
My son looked sassy and beautiful. He looked natural, happy and truly comfortable for the first time that day. Then I felt pain. If the rest of the world could be more empathetic, accepting, welcoming and kind, my son could be this happy and comfortable all of the time — because then my son could be a boy who dresses like a girl and not have to think twice about it. The world isn't like that.
Other people can’t see the beauty in my son in a dress. I haven’t always seen the beauty either. Two and a half years ago this scene from my life wouldn't have happened. I wouldn't have bought girl clothes for my son. Never. Ever. Back then, I felt uneasy when he played with Barbies. When he tried to dress feminine, I’d hand him his brother’s masculine hand-me-downs and tell him to put them on. I didn't give him choices because I knew that his choices would be pink with sparkle and rhinestones. His choices would smell like the raspberry vanilla body spray he snuck from bathroom and hid under his bed.
Then I realized that my actions were telling him “you can’t be you because I want you to be what society wants you to be.”
My husband and I changed the way we were parenting. There was something unique about our son that we could choose to support or destroy. We had to follow his lead. He led us to the pink aisles at Target; and, that’s not a dangerous, harmful, unhealthy place for a boy to be.
My son’s Christmas dress is hanging in his closet. He checks on it before and after school and a few other times each day. On Christmas Eve, a dozen members of our family will gather around the table in honor of religious beliefs and to celebrate the passing of one year and the start of another. It will be the first holiday that my son will join us at the table dressed as a girl. We won’t care. We will tell him that he is beautiful, inside and out. And, we’ll mean it x
Kids you let the little buggers watch what ever they want on tv but the minuet you want to watch anything they have a moan... Getting a little fucking sick of it it's every time... But I am now removing sky tv all of it and all they can do is read form today.. And all they will read is school books.... I fucking win!!
Wow can't believe I survived the end of the world, I do hope I am not the only person that would be crap.. So if there is anyone else out there please let me know! X
Well it's not long now until the end just hope it's quick I hate waiting for things, but on a normal note I am so tired not sure I have been this bad for years, right now I can't be arsed doing anything at all just want sleep, but I know I will be up early with the little one..... One sleep in is all I ask before I die ... And that might be tomorrow so best have it tomorrow morning.. X
Thank god for online shopping we got most of ours done and it will be here today, I just have to sneak off and do a little more without someone's eyes watching me...
With Christmas just next week how many children will get toys that they don't want, a boy does not always want a car or a girl a doll, I know my son and I know he likes cars but he also like dolls and cuddly things, so I have decided he will get what he likes, and that will be a talking rabbit this toy is not aimed at the male market, all in a pink box with a pink face, why should this be only aimed at girls, this gets me so mad, why is it not right for a boy to have a doll, he might not be gay/ trans, he might be a dad he might not, but this is the same for a girl, my boy just might want to play being daddy With a doll, if a girl can play mummy why is this so wrong... And all the mums I know drive cars, so if toy cars are just for boys why do females drive.. How many parents have tried to see if there child would like a doll or a car... Give it a go you just might be surprised, I bought my son two dolls at the beginning of the year, he did like them and I would buy him more without even thinking about it... Don't worry what others will think.. Stop being so shallow and give a child a chance to make there own mind up on what they like don't just thrust it upon them... X
It's been a mad week I have been up the wall with the babies and shopping, I have not finished yet but hope to have everything done for tomorrow, I am still waiting for my appointment from the GIC I hope this is not to long, the sooner I get out of this body the better, this is what I want for Christmas, I would never want anything else ever.... So Santa if you read this please hurry up I will even put you a glass of vodka out.. Xx
this poem is long, but might help someone fighting cancer. I wrote this about an hour into my radiotherapy, effectively trapped in a lead lined room, dosed up on all kinds of drugs and poisons, pretty off with the faeries, still remembered some cool words reading back through it! But maybe someone might be able to relate to it, it might help someone else in the same situation. By Lyndsey Sharp.
High on flights of fancy,
by various degrees.
An hour of isolation,
my mind drifts on a breeze.
A lonely time ahead,
to terrify and tame,
a throw of dice dictates
the outcome of this game.
No promises. No Guarantees.
One must wait and see.
I sit in silent turbulence
and write soliloquies.
No-one can tame the inside,
only observe the shell.
Sometime the fear is obvious,
sometimes its hard to tell.
Some speak about my bravery,
as if I have a choice
If I want to go on living
or keep my voice.
In quiet contemplation
I can heal or hurt my mind.
There's so much caught inside of me,
treasures yet to find.
When weakness overcomes me
naught left to do but cry,
I let myself feel all there is
and grateful, grasp the highs.
I'll take this life with both hands,
seek to be satisfied
with what I have that's positive,
be glad that I'm alive.
Death hides round every corner
and cares not who it takes
Each moment's what you make it,
There is no such thing as fate.
They say 'there's a reason for everything'
a kind soothing belief
I tried to hang on tight to
for a moment of relief.
But I can make no sense of this.
What lesson should I learn
I'm a 24 year old mother
Is this really what I've earned?
I've lived my life well meaning
and done the best I can
as life's events transpire
I am simply who I am.
Nothing I have done
should have this as a result
I know one thing for certain,
this cancer's not my 'fault'
I do not deserve it,
no-one does and no-one can
and I know for bloody certain
its not part of some grand plan.
I endure this cancer,
I try to bear it well.
How its effects will shape me
I have no way to tell.
I've had so much to face so far
from this life that I must live
Whatever happens to us next
I will continue to give
My best in every situation
'till exhaustion takes it's toll,
I'll seek a state of peace
and make living hope my goal.
Being Transgender or Gay is not a choice, being Transphobic or Homophobic is, so don't be a Twonk