Be aware of your attitudes concerning people with gender-atypical appearance or behaviour. Use names and pronouns that are appropriate to the person’s gender presentation and identity; if in doubt,ask their preference.
Don’t make assumptions about transgender people’s sexual orientation, desire for surgical or hormonal treatment, or other aspects of their identity or transition plans. If you have a reason to need to know, ask.
Don’t confuse gender dysphoria with gender expression: Gender-dysphoric males may not always appear stereotypically feminine, and not all gender-variant men are gender-dysphoric; gender-dysphoric females may not always appear stereotypically masculine, and not all gender-variant women are gender-dysphoric. Keep the lines of communication open with the transgender person in your life.
Get support in processing your own reactions. It can take some time to adjust to seeing someone who is transitioning in a new way. Having someone close to you transition will be an adjustment and can be challenging, especially for partners, parents, and children.Seek support in dealing with your feelings.
You are not alone. Mental health professionals and support groups for family, friends, and significant others of transgender people can be useful resources.